Get out of our party….!

One day this week, I was thinking about the people who once acknowledged Christ in their lives and no longer do so. In particular, the people who have made a conscious decision to turn their back on God and, in some instances, declared themselves as atheists. Not so much the people who have slowly moved out of that relationship with God through a series of choices, hurts, pain, and disillusionment etc. – I have some sympathy for this group because I know that on so many levels, church has got it wrong and it has let many people down. I think these people love Jesus still, somewhere deep down but struggle with church. Let’s face it, who hasn’t!? No, this blog is addressed to those who once believed in God and now they don’t think He exists.

 The reason we have Christmas, as you know, is because we celebrate the birth of Jesus. That is the one and only reason Christmas exists, the one and only reason we have a holiday during December. There is great pressure to start calling it ‘Holiday,’ which is simply ridiculous! We are never asked to consider changing the name of any other religious holiday so why this one!? I think it’s because the powers that be (read that as you will) know that if we acknowledge that the Saviour did come 2014 years ago, then not only do we have to receive that information, we have to believe all of his life and all of the words that he said while he walked the earth. This is a step too far for so many. So ‘they’ would rather sweep the truth of what happened, when Jesus was born, under the carpet, call it ‘Holiday’ and have us all just have a nice time with family and friends. ‘Holiday’ actually means ‘Holy day!’ by the way – don’t you think that is slightly ironic when they’re trying to get away from it being anything like a holy day!

 It’s well documented that Jesus probably wasn’t born in December – we all know that – this is not a debate on that. The fact is, in the UK and all over the world, we celebrate the wonderful season – Christmas – because Jesus was born in Bethlehem and our world changed forever! This is when we remember! This is the event that we, as Christians, more than anyone else, can have a huge party! We celebrate, like everyone else, with our family, our friends, we give and receive gifts, we laugh and over-eat! (Perhaps the over-eating isn’t such a good thing! Haha!) Plus, we know the real reason!! What isn’t there to party about!

 Like I said at the beginning, if you used to celebrate Christmas as a Christian and today you find yourself somewhere outside of that due to a variety of reasons, may be due to no fault of your own, come back to the party, you are more than welcome to join us – I trust that would be your experience whichever church you went back to. If, however, you used to celebrate Christmas as a Christian and you’ve now decided that there is no God, can I kindly ask you to get out of our party – this is our time, you can’t have your cake and eat it. You made your choice and, as far as I’m concerned, you shouldn’t just be able to ‘pop into’ Christmas. There is no getting away from the fact that this is a religious holiday – you know it – so your ‘RSVP’ should read, ‘sorry I can’t make it.’

 My prayer is that you will re-consider your choice to deny the one who gave you life – your ‘invite’ will be re-instated in an instant.

 To Christians all over the world who may read this, can I say have a brilliant Christ-mas and a wonderful new year – if you know the reason for this time of year, you are doubly blessed so go and walk in that blessing! See you in 2015!

Understanding a ‘no entry’ sign.

I was out on a small walk the other morning and as I was heading back to the campsite that we were currently on (I often have to think about which part of the country we are in many times a day!) the sign on the gate said,

‘The Caravan Club, Private Property, no Public right of way.’

 For a mili-second (honest!), I wondered if I was allowed to go through. I realised that of course I was allowed through; I was staying on the caravan club site! But that very fast moment got me thinking. The only reason I was able to pass through that gate was because I knew that that was where I was staying, that was where I belonged. I started thinking about how many Christians are falling short of the Christian life because they don’t know where they belong.

Yes, we’re saved and, when we die, we will go to heaven (I am thankful I don’t have to do anything else to achieve that) but, we also have access through a gate marked,

‘Abundant Life, Private Property, no public right of way.’

 We signed up for a life that gives us access to the amazing promises of God (‘if’ clauses included) that the general public has no right to!

Believers that are connected to the author have a manual for life right in front of them! The devil is more than happy for us to look at that sign and stay this side of the gate because we are asking the question, ‘does that mean me?’ IT DOES!!

If I had let my doubts grow as to whether I could walk through the caravan club gate, I’d have been standing there now! The devil doesn’t care if you doubt that the full Bible is for you! If he can get you not to read it, he is winning.

Apparently, Christians, on average, read their Bibles for 2 minutes a day! – don’t be one of them. Because so many Christians don’t really know who they are, they simply look at that sign, they don’t go through the gate and thousands, if not millions, are underachieving.

How sad to have access to a gate marked ‘Abundant Life’ but because of doubt, fear and/or unbelief, we never pass through it! If you are loving God and loving people at His commanded level, then that sign means you can go through it.

Don’t waste another minute wondering if you’re allowed….. 

On foot in Africa

The things you see when you haven’t got a car in the UK can be mind blowing enough but walking around in Tanzania is something else.

The house that we are staying at the moment is about a 20 minute, uphill walk to the main road. We have done it many times now and, quite honestly, we enjoy it! Except when I’m carrying 3 bags for a road trip! – More on that later!

Our walk takes us through villages where women have set up their stalls hoping to sell a few bananas to anyone passing – we’ve bought some – there are kids playing and shouting ‘wazungu’ (White man) to us as we pass by. What a funny thing to shout! ‘White man!’ I wonder what would happen if we did that walking around our home towns?!? Here, it is the norm. If we had a car, we wouldn’t hear them, we wouldn’t have bought bananas from that little, ramshackle stall.

Once we get to the main road, we can walk into town which takes about 45 minutes and is, potentially, safer or we can get on the local transport – matatu or daladala which could be seen, by some, as insane and unthinkable (15 years ago, I would have been part of that ‘some!’) but it gets you to town much quicker (hopefully) and it costs about 10 pence!! Perhaps that’s why people think it’s insane!!

Getting on bus in the UK is a very civilised affair. You wait in a queue, pay your fair and take a seat. Daladala – not so much! The ‘conductor’ – he doesn’t have a uniform or a ticket machine  – hangs out of the window and bangs on the side to tell the driver to stop! He stops whether the people want to get on or not. We have seen them persuading reluctant travellers to get on board! There are about 15 seats but that doesn’t stop them piling people on – 10 pence is 10 pence!

Even though there are many wazungu in this part of Africa, we have been the only ones of each of our journeys and we get comical looks, and smiles that seem to suggest ‘crazy wazungu!’ But we also get to smile back, ‘dance’ to the ‘inflight’ entertainment and meet new people. If we had a car, we wouldn’t have seen or heard the Tanzanians who travel on daladalas every day.

We’ve also travelled on the back of a motorbike – piki piki (off road I hasten to add! I’m not that insane!) It all adds to the adventure.

Once in town, we can get on with our ‘chores’ – paying for the TV so we can watch the premiership! (And other stuff!) Paying for our internet usage (only took us 5 times before we figured out how to pay it via mobile phone! How things have changed), then sorting out how to pay on a mobile phone in another office, being told to sit and wait and not having a clue what’s happening – if you know Africa, you know what I mean! Going to the ATM and hoping it’s got money in it, waiting for the whirring sound announcing the arrival of you cash is music to your ears.  Food shopping and lunch are always part of the deal on ‘chores Day!’ You just reconcile yourself to the fact that you’ll be out all day.

Beggars hoping you’ll drop a coin in, street hawkers hoping you’ll buy a bracelet or a map, vegetable stalls, cows, chickens and goats all attack our senses as we trundle through town. If we had a car, we would miss so much of this.

By the time we’ve done our chores, we’re ready for home. How shall we get home? Walk – definitely not, daladala? Nah, been there, done that today, piki piki – got too much to carry! (Phew!)   Taxi it is, door to door, service with a smile, costing much more than 10p but worth it every time!

Getting back to the ‘three bag’ comment. Recently we had to go to a conference in a place called Babati. We were going to be away for a few days. Carrying a suitcase from the house to the main road was a ‘no no’ – it’s not a nice smooth road that we could pull the case along on and trying to explain to the driver who would pick us up, where we lived, wasn’t going to happen so, on one of our other wanders through the villages, we passed a man who had a load of holdalls on a bicycle. We made his day – quite possibly, literally – and bought one for £8. ‘We’ll get all our stuff in there! John said confidently – I’m a girl and knew we never would. I was right, of course and this was the reason I was carrying 3 bags and John, drawing the short straw, carrying the over jammed £8 bag plus his man bag.

I have tried over the years to travel light but have accepted, by now, that neither can I nor do I want to. A girl needs her stuff! (Especially in Babati!) So, we left the house looking like two over-loaded donkeys.  We’d been going for about 10 minutes when this man stopped us, he was going in the opposite direction but he told us to wait and he would help us. He gave John his Bible and took the £8 bag off John. ‘Good swap’ I said! I quickly off loaded one of my 3 onto John and we were all better off! We shared the load. If we’d had a car, we wouldn’t have had that man’s help.

Do I want to live without a car in Africa or anywhere for that matter? No I don’t but, for a season, it’s an adventure. You see things you wouldn’t normally see, have conversations you wouldn’t normally have and everything takes a little longer. Plus, if we weren’t car-less at the moment, I wouldn’t have had this blog to write!

Try it sometime, change your perspective. Oh and next time you get on a UK bus, say a prayer for us!!

 

 

If God was on Face Book….

If God was on Facebook, what would He be like? Here are some of the things that I think would be His practice.

He would add every friend request

God wouldn’t have to wonder whether or not to add a friend request because He knows everyone! He wouldn’t be wondering whether or not they were just asking so they could hack into his account or whether they just want to be nosy – He would know the person’s motive right from the start….

He would like every legitimate status

Have you ever seen someone’s status and decided not to ‘like’ it because you don’t like the person who wrote it at that particular moment in time or anymore?? Don’t deny it! How do I know? Because I’ve done it! Aren’t we pathetic! The beautiful/awful Facebook does such strange things to our emotions and if we’re not careful, it has the capability of sending us into a depression for a whole day! God help us!

He wouldn’t delete anyone? Or would he?

Here is yet another dilemma with the beautiful/awful Facebook…. In a previous life before FB existed, if relationships, let’s say, ‘changed’ and, let’s face it, they do, that’s life, you just lost touch with that person for a while or maybe forever in some instances and, if it was a painful ‘separation,’ in time, maybe you healed from that and quite possibly picked up the relationship again even though it might be different from before. When a relationship changes with friends on FB, especially if it’s painful, every time you log on, you see their face or their status and it can be a reminder of the hurt that has either been caused you or that you have caused. (Let me say that I am not talking about serious break down here, sometimes you absolutely have to delete someone who is causing or has caused serious damage) So, what do you do? I think I have only ever deleted one person off FB and that was a reaction and probably unnecessary! Deleting seems so final. You may be trying to reach out to an estranged friend by ‘liking’ their status yet you are getting nothing back… it’s hard to bear especially if its Christians you are trying to bridge the gap with. So, what’s the measure we should use? Scripture says, that the measure we use will be the measure that will be used against us… ouch! What’s God’s measure? The Royal Law! That means that we should love everyone with the love that He shows to us! Ouch again! Would He delete anyone? I doubt it. His love for everyone is so far above what we understand and He always and forever keeps the Royal Law. I wish I did but I am certainly seeking to go that way because I know it is the only way to succeed as a Christian.

He wouldn’t write a status out of His emotions

Emotional status’ can be a dangerous thing – once you have let your fingers do the talking and you’ve pressed that ‘post’ button, it’s gone and your words are out there for the FB world to see. It has been said, ‘don’t write out of your emotions, they won’t represent you well.’ It’s perfectly true so before you press the ‘post’ button, ask yourself if you’re going to make people smile, think or just remember you, then hit that button baby! But, if you’re trying to score points, make people react to you, or tell an un-necessary piece of gossip, delete it! It’s never worth it…. And you may live to regret it. While ever words stay this side of your computer, they die, once you’ve typed it, they’re gone! You can’t bring them back!

He wouldn’t check the likes and comments every 30 seconds!

Man’s 3 basic needs are security, acceptance and significance. Adam and Eve had them way back in the beginning, but, when they ate that fruit – bye bye SAS!! Ever since that time, man has been trying to find those three things. Sadly, FB has given us a place to find those things temporarily! Like I said earlier, if you get no ‘likes’ it can ruin your day! How funny we are….. especially if we’ve written something that we felt was particularly world-changing! Haha! I read something the other day that made me smile – someone had tweeted about someone who had posted a photo, had no ‘likes’ and posted it again! Human beings are an odd breed. If you are one of those people who are totally secure and you hardly ever check your ‘likes’ then I take my hat off to you! Can you share your secret?

Will this blog stop me ‘misbehaving’ in all of the above – probably not all together because I’m human but I hope it might urge all of us on to be a little bit more gracious, wise and sensitive on the awful/beautiful Facebook that is with us for ever. I hope you ‘like’ my blog!!! HAHAHA!!

So, you say you’re a Christian…..

After reading the following, my husband said, ‘you’re dangerous when you wake up early!’ On the day I wrote this, I had woken up at 6.15am. It seems to be the time that I write. It came from my heart but you need to know, before you carry on, it won’t tickle your ears or make you feel all fluffy inside….. Read at your own risk!

 

The word, ‘Christian’ has so many meanings… Anyone can call himself or herself one and they do…. Film stars or sports stars and even well meaning people can say that they are Christians especially when they go into hospital and get asked the question, what religion are you? (That’s if they still ask the question!). The question I want to ask in this blog is what is one?? Jesus gave us the answer – he said ‘you must be born again’ how do you do that? You believe in your heart and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and, the Bible tells us, you will be saved. In one sense, although that can seem hard especially for a person who feels unworthy or useless, it’s the easy part of the decision. Once you’ve made that decision, all hell can break loose against you! Why? Because now you have an enemy who wants to make sure that your life is a disaster and he will try all kinds of things to get that to happen – he is a clever cookie. The very good news is, he can do nothing about your salvation – the decision you made to become a Christian – no matter what happens after that point, means that when you die, you will go to heaven! What a gift he gives! BUT, the evil one can most certainly nullify your Christian life so that not only do you not maximise your life on earth, but also you do nothing to help the cause of Christ on earth either. You ‘sit around’ and wait to die!

 

I’m addressing the following part to those who really have made that decision to follow Christ. (If you haven’t and you want to, nothing would give me more pleasure than to help you do that, contact me) It’s time to wake up! Saying you’re a Christian, filling in petitions against things that are not going away, demonstrating against things that are not going away, in themselves, is no longer enough. People are not interested. What they need to see is the gospel working in lives in such an incredible way, that they have no choice but to admire it – then there’s a chance they will listen to our protests – but not until!

 

Saying you believe is not enough. What you really believe is what you DO not what you SAY.

 

Why don’t Christians, generally speaking, you might be one that does, go to prayer meetings, church regularly, house groups, life changing weekends or conferences? Why don’t Christians spend more than 5 minutes a day in the word or prayer – answer? because they don’t really believe the message. That’s controversial I know but it’s the truth. If we really believed that God answered prayer, that we can have what his word says, that good, solid teaching can intervene in life, (I appreciate you may be in a church that doesn’t deliver solid teaching – I will write on this next!), then our churches would be fuller and backsliding would NEVER happen. Fact is, we don’t really believe it…

 

John 15:7 says, ‘If you remain in me and my word remains in you, ask whatever you wish and it will be given you!!’

 

Have you got any wishes? I know that you have. How do you get them? You remain in him and his word remains in you. In other words, you spend enough time in the word to know what it says but you also take the time to put those words into practice! They won’t just happen just because you’re a Christian. If they did, we would all be walking around in health, strength, prosperity (the state of thriving not just money! But money is included!) On the money thing, it is no blessing to be poor!! Just ask the average Tanzanian! But if you have a problem with being rich, then please get rich anyway and give it away!! You cannot do ministry without money! God help us! Rant over…

 

Well nearly over! I was at a conference recently and I was talking to a lady who told me about someone in her church who hadn’t read her Bible for 50 Years!! I shake my head as I write! What hope is there if we don’t even read the instruction manual? There is a statistic that says that only 20% of Christians read their Bible every day. Again, I have to say that this is because we don’t really believe it has the power to change our life.

 

The reason for this blog came out of a house group recently. Someone asked the question, ‘why aren’t more people here taking advantage of this teaching?’ Some had genuine reasons I’m sure but, for most, my answer would be this: For those who could be here and are not, it is because they don’t really believe it can change their life!’ Controversial? I don’t know but what I do know is, if the church doesn’t pull its socks up soon, we may not have a church we can freely go to in 50 years time…..If that’s you, can I be frank? For God’s and the UK’s sake, get off your backsides and get in the trenches! We need you!

Cheese, baths and worship!

When you go away for a holiday, you usually go for 2 weeks – 3, if you’re lucky. Depending on where you go, you can put up with different food, climate, toilets, language, insects etc…. because you know that within 2 weeks, you’ll be back to all the comforts of home… Moving to a different country is a different ball game! As our trip, draws to a close (29th March, we’ll be leaving for the UK), you start to think about the things you’ve missed and the things you’re looking forward to having back in your life. Of course, when I talk about things, I don’t mean friends and family… they are in your thoughts EVERY day especially your kids. That is the hardest thing about being away for sure!! You miss birthdays, anniversaries etc… it’s hard…. But, if I’m honest,  you do also miss things – yes, you can live without them but its better if you don’t have to isn’t it? 

So, the things I miss are a bath! Next time you have one, think about what it would be like if you couldn’t have one…. candles, book maybe a glass of wine…..aaaah! (not long now Deb!!) I miss roast dinners: chicken, vegetables, gravy, yorkshire puddings…. I can smell it as I write! Fajitas! One of my favourite foods! I miss drinking straight from the tap and I miss really nice cheese! Although it is getting better out here for that now…. I miss texting or phoning who I want and when I want. I have Viber, Whatsapp and Face book etc… which has made communication so much easier.. but what about those friends who don’t have any of those things.. how are they doing? 

One of the other things I discovered, I really miss is singing! I love to sing and for those of you who know me, know that’s true. I have my iPhone and when it gets desperate, I plug in my headphones and sing to my heart’s content (sorry for those who are around at the time!) I don’t think there’s many things worse than someone singing loud and they’re the only ones who can hear the music!

Let me take it to another level, the level that urged me to write this blog. I REALLY miss singing praise and worship! We’ve only been to one English service since we’ve been here, all the others have been Swahili and, whilst you can enjoy the dancing, the beat, the LOUD music and sometimes out of tune singing, it’s not the same as singing Michael W Smith or Darlene, Chris Tomlin or Matt Redman at the top of your lungs! I was recently having one of those times – walking and singing (I’m sure a bit too loud!) and just loving singing the songs of the above mentioned worship leaders – it was fabulous. So, I felt that I should write to you to ask you when was the last time you said thank you to your worship team (if you have one!) Have you appreciated them lately? I am a worship leader and, within 3 weeks, I will be back doing just that – I’m really looking forward to it because I’ll be able to sing songs that I understand and also lead others in those songs. Being a worship leader is a privileged position that shouldn’t be taken for granted by either the worship leader or the congregation.  

The longest I have ever gone without a joint worship experience was when we lived here in 1998 and didn’t go home for 2 years! We went to our national conference back in the UK and I sat, or rather danced, with my good friend Trish who was a missionary in Ghana and I thought I was in heaven! It was great! Music is a gift from heaven, singing is great – if you like that kind of thing. Worshipping in a lively church with friends and family is special – don’t take it for granted. 

Have a great Sunday! – and say thanks to those who will lead you! 

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Kids and Church…..

I read an article recently about a parent who was training their child to sit in church due to the fact that there wasn’t a programme for her child’s age group. It was a great article. She had to take the child out on occasion but she wouldn’t let him/her run around as if leaving the service was freedom! Great parenting requiring much patience! Well done to that mum! Not sure I could have done it!

I was reminded of the particular article whilst in church in Tanzania and it inspired me to write this blog!

If you’ve ever been to Africa, the 1 hour hymn – prayer sandwich service doesn’t exist! Meetings go for 3 hours and that’s being conservative!

The kids in the church that we were in recently sat on the two front rows. They sang, danced, clapped and closed their eyes when someone was praying. Out of around 15 children, probably 2 of them moved out of their seats. They were no toilet breaks, no drinks (and it was boiling!) and no biscuits, no crèche or Sunday school. (Sunday school happens at another time)

When the time for the sermon came, still they sat! And then, the head of Elim was in the meeting with a special announcement and he spoke for at least another half hour and still they sat! Finally the 5th choir performance came and we were almost at three hours…Were they bored? Hard to tell. I don’t know if African kids even know the word ‘bored!’ but still they never moved.

The UK has created a society that entertains children wherever
they go. Playgrounds in restaurants, kids menus, shopping trolleys shaped as cars, crèches for parents to leave kids so frazzled mums and dads can shop in peace. We’ve got portable DVD players in cars, Kids meals, Kids’ iPads so that when in a restaurant, they can be entertained and so on and so on and so on….. What’s it going to be like in another 20 years?

What about child locks on cupboards? I remember my mum commenting on this and it stuck with me. She said, when you were little, we just had to watch you and train you to not go in the cupboards or near the fire. In other words, I had to learn, ‘no.’

Some churches have amazing kids’ programmes!! Many of our children don’t ever go into the main service anymore so they don’t have to learn to sit.

Before you think about throwing stones at me, hang on! I’m a mum and have used most of the above things and the only reason I haven’t used all of them is because they didn’t exist when my kids were little! 9 hour journeys in Africa – would I have had a portable DVD player??? YOU BET!!

What needs thinking about though is this: if all those things were taken away from your kids, could you take your child to church, shopping, to eat out etc and they would know how to behave without the relevant ‘entertainment?’ What happens when you say ‘no’ to your child? Do they accept your ‘no’ or do they perform their manipulation in whatever form they’ve learned until your ‘no’ turns to ‘yes!’ Maybe you never even say ‘no’ just to keep the peace. If you never say ‘no’ to a child, you’re not loving them properly.

In some schools in the USA now teachers aren’t allowed to say ‘no’ to children! If a child hits another, the teacher says to the kid that did the hitting, ‘how did that make you feel?!?!’ God help us……(maybe it’s similar in the UK -I don’t know)

As adults, we crave instant gratification. Fast food, microwaves, drive through petrol, grocery delivery…whatever you want, good or bad, you can get it fast…. Good or bad, at the touch of a button, it’s yours. So there is little wonder our kids want the same.

I am absolutely for kids’ church, Sunday school, youth programmes, crèches and so on (I’ve done them all!) I grew up going to Sunday school. In some of the churches my dad pastored, it was on a Sunday afternoon and so me and brother had to sit still in church. Kids can gain great benefits from being taught in a way that suits their age. I am not against it.

And I don’t think that kids in the UK or Africa should have to sit through a 3 hour service where there is nothing relevant to them but the point I want to make is that in Africa, kids can.

It’s worth thinking about….

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It’s all so very different this time……

On a hot Summers day in 1998, we left the shores of the UK with a 6 and 7 year old – we were on a one way ticket to Tanzania. We had no clue what we were going in to. John and I had visited just once before for a fortnight back in 1997. There was a lot to handle in those long two weeks – and when we came back, we said we would NEVER return to Africa! Thank goodness God doesn’t listen to our emotions!!

We lived there, as a family for two and a half years, we didn’t see the UK for two! After a serious heart problem in John, a very dark time ensued for us as a family and we wondered how we would ever come out of it… Eventually we were told we would never be able to go back to Africa. This broke our hearts… We had grown to love it.  Thank goodness God doesn’t listen to man’s decisions!!

We have all been back to Africa dozens of times since we left – it never leaves you. 

Today, 28th January, a cold Winters day, 2014 we are going back to Tanzania to begin a new adventure! It’s not a one way ticket (thankfully) and we haven’t got a 6 & 7 year old in tow!

What we do have though is a dream – a massive dream and we have experience. The ‘school’ we have been in, both in the UK and in Africa, has been priceless…. of course it would have been nice to avoid some of the lessons we have learned …. because they were tough and it would have been a more pleasant journey to avoid the tears, pain and hurt, BUT, without the tears, pain and hurt, you don’t learn stuff! That’s life!

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We fly in about an hour so we’ll see you on the other side!! WOOHOO!! 

Let’s get our house in order!

I watched two programmes recently, one on homosexuality, a documentary by Stephen Fry and immediately after that (coincidence??) there was a programme on divorce from the kids’ point of view. I felt compelled to write a blog and here it is…

For some time now, probably years actually, I have longed to see more than I see in the church. I read the Bible, I see the miracles that Jesus, the disciples, the apostles did, I read that His DIVINE POWER has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness (2 Peter 1:3), I read that we can participate in the divine nature…. and then I look at the church. The two, generally speaking, don’t equate. The church in the UK, I believe, is so far away from what God intended, that there has to be some major changes if we are to be taken seriously in this ever changing world.

Stephen Fry went to interview a pastor in Uganda who believes that homosexuals should be hanged – Fry even showed a clip of this happening. How can this be right? He interviewed a young woman who had been raped at the age of 14 to ‘shake her out’ of her homosexual feelings, their belief was that if she had sex with a man, she would be ‘cured.’ She was broken.

The kids on the divorce programme were broken.

Here is the point I feel duty-bound to bring to the churches attention, we know what the Bible teaches about homosexuality, we know what the Bible teaches about divorce, we know what the Bible teaches about other religions and so on. We have become very good at shouting and disagreeing with our world, signing petitions against all these kinds of things and more, and, in some places, we have justified killing people who don’t live to our moral code, or burning other religion’s holy books. In fact, we are known for it – ‘Christians’ are labelled as homophobic, intolerant and out of touch with a changing society. Speaking for myself, I need to say that I don’t agree with the act of homosexuality because of my religious beliefs – surely that’s my right? However, neither do I hate homosexuals (Stephen perception). I simply believe the church has bigger fish to fry right now in our nation.

The world is not listening to our opinions – they are not interested in what we think, why? I believe that one reason is because, generally speaking, they see nothing or very little that attracts them to what we have got.

I think that we have to turn our attention away, at least for a while, from what we don’t agree with in our world, (let’s face it, all the above issues aren’t going away) and concentrate on becoming a strong church that is truly walking in the divine power of God and not in so-called miracles that wouldn’t pass the trades description act! I have seen genuine miracles and I know friends who have been healed from serious illnesses but, the truth is, I could probably count these on one hand. We have turned so much of church into a farce as if God needs defending and, from where I am looking from, it’s not working, by and large. Of course, God is still saving souls today and individual lives are being changed but I am talking on a larger scale. Where is our voice?

Can you imagine, for instance, if an army vet came home from Afghanistan with no arms or legs and was healed…..I think we would get the world’s attention? I think people would look on in amazement – there could be no argument with a miracle of that magnitude (I am praying for it to be so)

Can you imagine if Christians were known to not suffer depression, bi-polar, mental health issues? I think we would get the world’s attention?

Can you imagine if every Christian attended their church prayer meeting (Oh wait… if there was one!!) Is it even possible to change our world through prayer? Absolutely, but we have to do it. Muslims pray 5 times a day…

Can you imagine if every Christian read the word of God every day? (only 20% do)

Can you imagine if Christian men weren’t being bled from the church because of pornography?

Can you imagine if Christians didn’t carry unforgiveness and bitterness from one church to the next?

Can you imagine if pastors and their wives got the respect and honour they deserve for slogging it out on the front line year after year?

I could go on and on but I trust you get my point. We have so much to do. But here’s the biggest thing we have to do. Jesus told us, THE WORLD WILL KNOW THAT YOU BELONG TO ME THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR ONE ANOTHER. What other religions teach me and what the Israelites teach me is that these groups had/have certain standards by which they live, which give them solidarity and unity that the church doesn’t have any more. The Israelites, as bad as they were, had certain things they had to do if they wanted to be holy and acceptable to God. Granted most of them didn’t do it, but they suffered for that choice!
By and large, there are no such standards for the Christian church today: go to church, or have church for one, have too much alcohol, don’t have too much alcohol, pray, don’t pray, read the Bible, don’t read the Bible and so on….
If we want to be heard in our nation, then we simply have to get our house in order first. The church is THE BEST IDEA God ever had and we could be a powerful force. I love the church which is why I am passionate about making a difference. We must raise our standards and then we can begin again to sign the petitions and make our protests heard but from a position of strength and not from a position of weakness.